My Past
I was raised in a dysfunctional and highly toxic family system. I understand first hand what it feels like to be shamed and belittled and lied to and then accused of the very behavior of my abusers. I spent my childhood trying to navigate physical and emotional abuse and the confusion it brings. The impact on my health was enormous. I spent years searching for answers and solutions and by chance and the intervention of God was blessed with an incredible healer who opened the door to the tactics of abusers and showed me that I had been living under a veil of denial in order to survive the abuse by those i loved. I learned how to break free and made it my life's mission to help others do the same and to heal the pain of narcissistic abuse syndrome caused by emotional terrorists. I am grateful to say that my healing journey has been so successful that my mission now for years has been to help others find their way back to health and achieve a stronger sense of self using proven techniques as defense structures against predators who seek to bully others for their own personal fulfillment.
My Passion
Every living creature has a right to feel safe and to feel peaceful and happy. Sadly, there are those who live among us and maybe even raised us who enjoy inflicting pain onto others in order to feel power and control. Child predators have a destructive and controlling mindset and this mindset is no different than that of an emotional terrorist or every day bully. Bullies come in the form of family members, friends, co-workers, doctors, lawyers to name just a few. The title is irrelevant as we are all people no matter what our title. Bullies share many traits that can be identified very early in a relationship. My passion is to help others identify their behavioral traits and to recognize abuse by using your own body and what signals are being sent to you by your brain and body in an effort warn you that you are involved with a predator/bully. Understanding the cycle of abusers and their patterns is the first step to healing. Remember that toxic relationships can occur within families, friendships, employment as well as the professional arena of lawyers, doctors, teachers, priests etch. Look carefully at the below patterns of behavior. If you can identify 3 of these behaviors you are in fact in a toxic relationship.
- Tells you that you can never do anything right and criticizes you when you are happy
- Shows extreme jealousy of your friends and time spent away from them
- Reads your text messages without permission
***Engages in invisible abuse by launching seemingly harmless comments about your hair, weight or any other subject that causes you to "feel" less than or embarrassed even though on the surface others do not see anything wrong***
- Keeps you or discourages you from seeing friends or family members
- Insults, demeans or shames you with put-downs in private yet rarely in public
- Cares more about their image to outsiders so they will seem like Jekyll and Hyde depending on who is watching
- Controls every penny spent in the household or criticizes what you spend money on if you are not married yet in a relationship with this individual as friend, lover or co-worker
- Takes or borrows money and refuses to pay you back or give you money for necessary expenses
- Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you
- Controls who you see, where you go, or what you do
- Prevents you from making your own decisions
- Threatens or harms your pets
- Engages in actions that create large amounts of mental confusion and anxiety
- Tells you that you are a bad friend, person, parent or threatens to harm or take away your belongings, pets or children
- Prevents you from working or attending school
- Destroys your property or threatens to hurt or kill you then claims they were only joking
- Smirks when they get away with hurting you
- Smears your character to others either in front of you or behind your back and then denies doing anything and rages at you when questioned
- Intimidates you with guns, knives or other weapons including a vehicle through reckless driving
- Pressures you to have sex or unusual sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
- Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol
My Focus
If you are here because you need someone to talk to and you feel alone or misunderstood call me now and we will come up with solutions to help you heal. If you feel trapped in an situation or relationship I can help you gain clarity and find the inner strength needed to navigate your current situation. We offer email, text and phone support packages to help you stay and feel connected to someone who understands.
You are not alone! You are not crazy! Sometimes all anyone needs is someone to talk to who understands!